On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will light up. That is the power of concentration.
A man was traveling and stopped at an intersection. He asked an elderly man, "Where does this road take me?" The elderly person asked, "Where do you want to go?" The man replied, "I don't know." The elderly person said, "Then take any road. What difference does it make?"
How true. When we don't know where we are going, any road will take us there.
Suppose you have all the football eleven players, enthusiastically ready to play the game, all charged up, and then someone took the goal post away. What would happen to the game? There is nothing left. How do you keep score? How do you know you have arrived?
Enthusiasm without direction is like wildfire and leads to frustration. Goals give a sense of direction. Would you sit in a train or a plane without knowing where it was going? The obvious answer is no. Then why do people go through life without having any goals?
Monday, February 6, 2012
IT IS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE
There was a man taking a morning wa lk at or the beach. He saw that along with the morning tide came hundreds of starfish and when the tide receded, they were left behind and with the morning sun rays, they would die. The tide was fresh and the starfish were alive. The man took a few steps, picked one and threw it into the water. He did that repeatedly. Right behind him there was another person who couldn't understand what this man was doing. He caught up with him and asked, "What are you doing? There are hundreds of starfish. How many can you help? What difference does it make?" This man did not reply, took two more steps, picked up another one, threw it into the water, and said, "It makes a difference to this one."
What difference are we making? Big or small, it does not matter. If everyone made a small difference, we'd end up with a big difference, wouldn't we?
What difference are we making? Big or small, it does not matter. If everyone made a small difference, we'd end up with a big difference, wouldn't we?
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
STRONER MINDS
Our brain mind is a source of energy that is transmitted from you through the vibrations of thought and tunes into situations and people that share the same frequency you transmit. This transmission can be either positive or negative.
Positive thoughts are those transmitted from you and find other people and situations of a positive nature, or negative thoughts find the negative; what you find depends on what you are thoughts are.
Many years ago, there was this young many working as a clerk at a newspaper office. He was a quiet and timid young man with hard any self-confidence at all. If he enters a meeting room, he would took a seat at the back of the room hoping not to be noticed.
One evening, he attended a seminar on building ones self-confidence and his life was forever changed. He left that seminar with a determination to build his self-confidence no matter what.
The next business day he went to the personal office and requested to be moved into the advertising department so he could sell advertising spots. He was moved into his new position that day on a strictly commission bases.
The very first thing this young man did was make a list of all the merchants that no other salesman was able to sell ads too; this consisted of twelve merchants. Next he went to the park and read over the names on his list over one hundred times saying with each reading, "You will purchase advertising from me before the end of the month."
He went back to his office and began making calls and the very first day he sold ads to three of the merchants that no one else was ever able to sell to before. During the remainder of the week he sold to two more and by the end of the month he had sold advertising space to all but one.
Every single day of that whole month the young salesman was at the merchants place of business when he open and tried to sell him advertising space and each time the merchant said NO! Finally by the end of the month the merchant demanded what the young man kept wasting his time trying to sell him advertising space when he didn't want any.
The young man responded by saying that it was not a waste of his time at all but that he had been going to school and the merchant was the teacher; what the merchant had taught the young man was all the many reasons a merchant could give for not wanting advertising space; plus the merchant gave a very good lesson in self-confidence.
The merchant had a good laugh and said that in return he got a very good lesson in persistence and for that lesson he would buy the advertising space the young man kept trying to sell him.
The young man went on to build even greater self-confidence and became a multi-millionaire. By making his goal list and selling to these men that no other could sell to he developed a powerful self-confidence that charged his mind and transmit only the positive leading him only to success.
Far too many people will give up as soon as they see a challenge and say it's too hard to do and that it's a waste of time. Those that struggle and succeed build the self-confidence need to succeed in life, love and business.
Positive thoughts are those transmitted from you and find other people and situations of a positive nature, or negative thoughts find the negative; what you find depends on what you are thoughts are.
Many years ago, there was this young many working as a clerk at a newspaper office. He was a quiet and timid young man with hard any self-confidence at all. If he enters a meeting room, he would took a seat at the back of the room hoping not to be noticed.
One evening, he attended a seminar on building ones self-confidence and his life was forever changed. He left that seminar with a determination to build his self-confidence no matter what.
The next business day he went to the personal office and requested to be moved into the advertising department so he could sell advertising spots. He was moved into his new position that day on a strictly commission bases.
The very first thing this young man did was make a list of all the merchants that no other salesman was able to sell ads too; this consisted of twelve merchants. Next he went to the park and read over the names on his list over one hundred times saying with each reading, "You will purchase advertising from me before the end of the month."
He went back to his office and began making calls and the very first day he sold ads to three of the merchants that no one else was ever able to sell to before. During the remainder of the week he sold to two more and by the end of the month he had sold advertising space to all but one.
Every single day of that whole month the young salesman was at the merchants place of business when he open and tried to sell him advertising space and each time the merchant said NO! Finally by the end of the month the merchant demanded what the young man kept wasting his time trying to sell him advertising space when he didn't want any.
The young man responded by saying that it was not a waste of his time at all but that he had been going to school and the merchant was the teacher; what the merchant had taught the young man was all the many reasons a merchant could give for not wanting advertising space; plus the merchant gave a very good lesson in self-confidence.
The merchant had a good laugh and said that in return he got a very good lesson in persistence and for that lesson he would buy the advertising space the young man kept trying to sell him.
The young man went on to build even greater self-confidence and became a multi-millionaire. By making his goal list and selling to these men that no other could sell to he developed a powerful self-confidence that charged his mind and transmit only the positive leading him only to success.
Far too many people will give up as soon as they see a challenge and say it's too hard to do and that it's a waste of time. Those that struggle and succeed build the self-confidence need to succeed in life, love and business.
QUOTES
"Making the decision to have a child - it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart walking around outside your body." *-- Elizabeth Stone
"Teamwork is what the Green Bay Packers were all about. They didn't do it for individual glory. They did it because they loved one another." *--Vince Lombardi
"Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong." *-- Lao-Tzu
"Teamwork is what the Green Bay Packers were all about. They didn't do it for individual glory. They did it because they loved one another." *--Vince Lombardi
"Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong." *-- Lao-Tzu
Monday, May 23, 2011
How To Combat Worrying
We worry about problems, but worry is itself a problem. It inhibits clear thinking, it drains us of energy, it upsets our sleep and our digestion. It can make us irritable, bitter, regretful, pessimistic, depressed... What a price to pay for something that serves no useful function.
We learned to worry at a young age, but they were childish fears, but those childish fears carried on to adulthood. Worrying is about control, we all have a vision of how we want things to be, but when things or situations do not turn out as we expected we feel helpless and overwhelmed by an unpredictable and unkown future. We find it hard to let go of a problem, which then starts to contaminate our mind and thoughts. The truth is that we are our own worst enemy and many of our troubles are inside our head. We put the stamp of who we are on every preception. We see the world from the viewpoint of ourselves and in doing so our emotions and fears blurr our vision.
Worry makes cowards of us all. It forces us to turn away from acting upon a problem or indeed it may even create the illusion that the problem doesn't exist in the first place. Worry pushes us back into ourselves, reinforces the impression that the worst will happen, that we can't cope, that we are helpless in the flow of circumstances which carry us inexorable towards unhappiness.
All of us who have worried have become experts in it over the years. But worry itself is cunning, it is a distorting lens which hides from us the lessons it is teaching. It causes us to see an opportunity as a risk and a challenge as a problem.
Problems are often created and imposed upon us by other people or rather, by our inablility to prevent other people from loading that weight of trouble on our shoulders. We habitually and implicityly say 'yes' to problems, because many of us do not have the coping techniques to assert 'no'. Manuel Smith's 'When I Say No I Feel Guilty' is a useful and empowering book on assertiveness.
Potentially we have a great deal of control over the way we talk to ourselves. But frequently, the bleak melody of worry runs in our minds as a kind of background noise to our lives. The irony is that we don't even make an effort to eliminate it, but just listen to that same old tune of hopelessness and gloom. But by establishing a coping dialogue we can diminish and dispel the tedious repetitiveness of worry. Take time out every day to give yourself a pep talk. Be upbeat, confident, determined. Simply tell yourself with as much conviction as you can muster that you are going to take deliberate action to achieve what you can and refuse to be troubled by circumstances that are beyond your control.
Below are some tips on how to control your worring. I know from experience that this is not an easy thing to do, but with a little patience and perserverance you will soon be able to control your worrying instead of it controlling you.
Think about what is worrying you, and ask yourself what possible action you can take to aliviate the problem. Then take that action immediately.
To bring harmony into your life is to accept that some things are quite beyond our control. As the saying goes 'Change what you can change and accept what you can't'.
Worry thrives on inactivity and lack of choice, it lies coiled in quiet places. So launch yourself into a busy routine of work and leisure, by keeping your mind occupied on other things will give it less time to worry.
Worry also thrives on delay and procrastination, so take action against anything that worries you, put the same energy in solving problems as worrying about them and sufference will soon be a thing of the past. When you have taken all possible action then remember to let go of the problem.
Failure is an attitude, a state of mind. It is not reality. Cultivate a postive attitude and affirm to yourself your intention to succeed.
Worry closes doors and narrows horizons, its a fruitless activity but tenacious in the grip it has on our minds. So you have to be alert for positive opportunities.
The world isn't what we see, but what we think we see. And the way we see it determines the degree of happiness we enjoy each day. So start looking at life more positively, this isn't always easy to do but by forcing your mind to think positively it will eventually become a habit.
Our days can be problem-ridden, each problem bringing with it the burden of worry. But to know that a problem is a preception is already to have divested ourselves of some of its weight. Problems left unchecked flower in the mind but properly regarded, they are diminished, and we are free to invest our time and energy in living, rather than in profitless worrying.
In most cases, for most of the time, problems are simply thoughts in the imagination, without necessarily any firm basis in external reality. Worrying is a waste of our precious time, we cannot control events or circumstances, we can only do our very best in trying to solve the problem. So instead of using up your energy in worrying, use the energy to take action.
Worry is a guest which has stayed to long. It moves in invitied, and by its presence claims the right to stay. It is unwelcome, unwanted, burdonsome. And the irony of it all is that it creeps into our lives while we're still living there. Go in there and kick worry out. Take extreme measures - take any measures you know will succeed.
Some people will go to enormous lengths to avoid doing something they find embarrassing or difficult, tedious, unfamiliar, new. The trouble is that many problems just don't go away by themselves. In procrastinating, we hold ourselves back. We may wish the problem had never happened. But it has. And the only way through to a trouble free tomorrow is to tackle those troubles today.
Worry makes us think things can never change - except to get worse. While worrying, we can't solve the problem or enjoy the other aspects of our life, which might not be linked with the problem at all.
"The pearl is lovelier than the most brilliant of crystalline gems, because it is made through the suffering of a living creature..." *-- H. G. Wells
We learned to worry at a young age, but they were childish fears, but those childish fears carried on to adulthood. Worrying is about control, we all have a vision of how we want things to be, but when things or situations do not turn out as we expected we feel helpless and overwhelmed by an unpredictable and unkown future. We find it hard to let go of a problem, which then starts to contaminate our mind and thoughts. The truth is that we are our own worst enemy and many of our troubles are inside our head. We put the stamp of who we are on every preception. We see the world from the viewpoint of ourselves and in doing so our emotions and fears blurr our vision.
Worry makes cowards of us all. It forces us to turn away from acting upon a problem or indeed it may even create the illusion that the problem doesn't exist in the first place. Worry pushes us back into ourselves, reinforces the impression that the worst will happen, that we can't cope, that we are helpless in the flow of circumstances which carry us inexorable towards unhappiness.
All of us who have worried have become experts in it over the years. But worry itself is cunning, it is a distorting lens which hides from us the lessons it is teaching. It causes us to see an opportunity as a risk and a challenge as a problem.
Problems are often created and imposed upon us by other people or rather, by our inablility to prevent other people from loading that weight of trouble on our shoulders. We habitually and implicityly say 'yes' to problems, because many of us do not have the coping techniques to assert 'no'. Manuel Smith's 'When I Say No I Feel Guilty' is a useful and empowering book on assertiveness.
Potentially we have a great deal of control over the way we talk to ourselves. But frequently, the bleak melody of worry runs in our minds as a kind of background noise to our lives. The irony is that we don't even make an effort to eliminate it, but just listen to that same old tune of hopelessness and gloom. But by establishing a coping dialogue we can diminish and dispel the tedious repetitiveness of worry. Take time out every day to give yourself a pep talk. Be upbeat, confident, determined. Simply tell yourself with as much conviction as you can muster that you are going to take deliberate action to achieve what you can and refuse to be troubled by circumstances that are beyond your control.
Below are some tips on how to control your worring. I know from experience that this is not an easy thing to do, but with a little patience and perserverance you will soon be able to control your worrying instead of it controlling you.
Think about what is worrying you, and ask yourself what possible action you can take to aliviate the problem. Then take that action immediately.
To bring harmony into your life is to accept that some things are quite beyond our control. As the saying goes 'Change what you can change and accept what you can't'.
Worry thrives on inactivity and lack of choice, it lies coiled in quiet places. So launch yourself into a busy routine of work and leisure, by keeping your mind occupied on other things will give it less time to worry.
Worry also thrives on delay and procrastination, so take action against anything that worries you, put the same energy in solving problems as worrying about them and sufference will soon be a thing of the past. When you have taken all possible action then remember to let go of the problem.
Failure is an attitude, a state of mind. It is not reality. Cultivate a postive attitude and affirm to yourself your intention to succeed.
Worry closes doors and narrows horizons, its a fruitless activity but tenacious in the grip it has on our minds. So you have to be alert for positive opportunities.
The world isn't what we see, but what we think we see. And the way we see it determines the degree of happiness we enjoy each day. So start looking at life more positively, this isn't always easy to do but by forcing your mind to think positively it will eventually become a habit.
Our days can be problem-ridden, each problem bringing with it the burden of worry. But to know that a problem is a preception is already to have divested ourselves of some of its weight. Problems left unchecked flower in the mind but properly regarded, they are diminished, and we are free to invest our time and energy in living, rather than in profitless worrying.
In most cases, for most of the time, problems are simply thoughts in the imagination, without necessarily any firm basis in external reality. Worrying is a waste of our precious time, we cannot control events or circumstances, we can only do our very best in trying to solve the problem. So instead of using up your energy in worrying, use the energy to take action.
Worry is a guest which has stayed to long. It moves in invitied, and by its presence claims the right to stay. It is unwelcome, unwanted, burdonsome. And the irony of it all is that it creeps into our lives while we're still living there. Go in there and kick worry out. Take extreme measures - take any measures you know will succeed.
Some people will go to enormous lengths to avoid doing something they find embarrassing or difficult, tedious, unfamiliar, new. The trouble is that many problems just don't go away by themselves. In procrastinating, we hold ourselves back. We may wish the problem had never happened. But it has. And the only way through to a trouble free tomorrow is to tackle those troubles today.
Worry makes us think things can never change - except to get worse. While worrying, we can't solve the problem or enjoy the other aspects of our life, which might not be linked with the problem at all.
"The pearl is lovelier than the most brilliant of crystalline gems, because it is made through the suffering of a living creature..." *-- H. G. Wells
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